The Link Between Help, Heroism and Desire
Oct. 31st, 2009 10:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sub_amaI started writing this entry with examples going from ages past up through present day, but thought it sounded a little too like a thesis for my comfort, so I'm starting again.
In this re-boot of a question, I'll simply ask two questions. They are linked (at least *I* think they are), but I'd like you to consider each one as separate from the other. We'll connect the dots later and see if it comes up with anything interesting.
First. and this question is mainly for the guys, here's the situation:
A woman you know, but have no particular feelings for one way or the other, finds herself in need of help. For our example, lets say she just injured her ankle -- it may be broken, sprained or merely strained -- we can't tell yet. In any event, she can't walk on her own and requires your assistance to hobble over somewhere where she can get it looked at. So, being the nice person that you are, you assist, and help her find a place to sit, possibly going so far as to secure some further help for her.
Q1: Does having rendered help to a person you previously felt neutral toward, make you feel in any way more proprietory and/or protective of her? Why? Or should your thought processes take you in the other direction, why not? (Sorry, it's sounding like an essay question, which is not what I was intending, but I really do want to know the intracasies.)
Actually, I'll stop with that question until I get a few answers coming in, then I'll throw the possibly-linked-but-considered-separately, question out there to finish up with...
In this re-boot of a question, I'll simply ask two questions. They are linked (at least *I* think they are), but I'd like you to consider each one as separate from the other. We'll connect the dots later and see if it comes up with anything interesting.
First. and this question is mainly for the guys, here's the situation:
A woman you know, but have no particular feelings for one way or the other, finds herself in need of help. For our example, lets say she just injured her ankle -- it may be broken, sprained or merely strained -- we can't tell yet. In any event, she can't walk on her own and requires your assistance to hobble over somewhere where she can get it looked at. So, being the nice person that you are, you assist, and help her find a place to sit, possibly going so far as to secure some further help for her.
Q1: Does having rendered help to a person you previously felt neutral toward, make you feel in any way more proprietory and/or protective of her? Why? Or should your thought processes take you in the other direction, why not? (Sorry, it's sounding like an essay question, which is not what I was intending, but I really do want to know the intracasies.)
Actually, I'll stop with that question until I get a few answers coming in, then I'll throw the possibly-linked-but-considered-separately, question out there to finish up with...
